You Should Fight With Your Boyfriend

Five reasons why fighting with your S.O. is important.

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There’s a common misconception that couples who are “truly in love” never fight. They are blissfully enamored with one another, with affection pouring out of their eyes and lips at all times.

I have to call bull.

Couples who are truly in love do fight. And when they fight, it’s probably pretty ugly.

To clarify, by “fight,” I don’t mean physical or verbal abuse. I am referring to having disagreements, or different perspectives on the same situation.

One of my friends recently asked me if I ever fought with my boyfriend. I told her yeah, every so often. She followed it with, “oh, but is it about serious stuff or just like little disagreements?”

To which I said, “no, it’s about the big stuff.”

My boyfriend and I don’t fight all the time. Maybe once every couple of months, if I had to estimate. But if we do “fight,” it’s about something meaningful. We don’t have time or energy to waste getting upset with each other over nonsense.

We’ve had disagreements about many of the hot-button issues that couples typically postpone until after the honeymoon — finances, in-laws/extended family, careers, physical and emotional…