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You Aren’t Entitled To A Woman’s Dating History
PSA: Asking personal questions too early on is a huge turn-off.
In college, I had been talking to a guy for all of ten minutes when he asked, “So, how many boyfriends have you had?”
I politely told him that it was none of his business.
Men are sometimes turned off when a woman refuses to share this detail about her past. More often than not, women keep their “number” private because they don’t want to be judged or rejected by a man if he thinks that they have “too much experience.”
At the time, I had never had a serious boyfriend. I had dated, but never to the point where I had wracked up a “number,” so to speak.
Still, I didn’t feel that this guy who I barely knew deserved to know that detail about me.
A few weeks later, I met another man who took also took a particular interest in my dating history. But when he asked the same question, he phrased it as, “have you ever had a boyfriend?”
While it seemed that the first guy was curious to know whether I’d had too much experience, the second guy seemed curious to know whether I had any experience at all.
Again, I told him it was none of his business.
