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Why Do Non-Traditional Women Still Expect Traditional Men?
The outcry from modern women is that there are no “real men” in the dating market today.
There are a bunch of little boys, lots of “toxic masculinity,” and nightmarish dating app profiles.
So what makes a “real” man?
Let’s unpack a few of the most commonly desired qualities.
“He should provide for me.”
No need to beat around the bush on this one — this basically means he pays for stuff.
He foots the bill at fancy restaurants. He has a home or can afford to pay his rent. He can afford to take you on vacations and buy expensive gifts. (So on and so forth.)
Don’t get me wrong — the concept of men being “providers” is not completely unreasonable.
Traditionally, a man would be expected to work to provide for his wife and children. He would be expected to financially support his home, put food on the table, and take care of the basic needs of his family.
But men were never expected to provide financially without getting anything in return. Traditionally, there were also expectations placed on women — such as homemaking and taking care of children.
The man provides financially, and the woman provides a clean and happy home.
However, today, women are no longer willing to be homemakers.
Women are going out, getting educated, and focusing on their careers. Women are more independent than ever and have no desire to be trapped as a stay-at-home-mom tending to babies when they could be chasing their dreams, traveling, and living their best lives.
Modern women have no care for traditional skills like cooking, cleaning, or anything else, really. They don’t want to be stuck tending to the home when they now have so many other options.
Women don’t want to fulfill the traditional feminine role that they were once expected to. And yet, men are still expected to be financial “providers.”
