When Your Partner Isn’t Over Their Ex
What should you do when your partner hasn’t healed from a previous breakup?
If someone hasn’t healed properly from a previous relationship, it may very well be his or her own fault. But if the ex-in-question did something truly horrible — like cheating with their partner’s best friend, or wracking up $10,000 worth of debt on a credit card and vanishing— it can take a toll on a person’s mental state.
As expected, recovering from that type of breakup requires a lot more energy than moving on from an otherwise amicable relationship that ended on somewhat mutual grounds.
It may require therapy. It may require finding God. But it definitely requires more than just a few nights out with the boys or a few dates with new potential partners.
This concept — that healing takes time and tremendous effort — seems to be lost on young people who have had unpleasant experiences while dating in the past.
To Illustrate:
A young man — let’s call him Corey — has had a couple of bad experiences with women. Most recently, he had a long-term girlfriend who ended up cheating on him. He was with her for two years until the relationship finally ended.
