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This Got Me Through The Worst Heartbreak Of My Life
Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings we can experience. It shatters us in ways that other forms of physical or emotional pain do not.
The worst heartbreak I have experienced occurred when I was young, dumb, and completely enamored with a young man who (eventually) wanted nothing to do with me.
When he moved on, I was devastated.
Like most of us do, I went through the different stages of grief: denial, sadness, anger, and eventually, acceptance.
It wasn’t a seamless or easy process, and it took far longer than I would like to admit. It affected me emotionally in more ways than I could have predicted.
In order to overcome it, I had to shift the way I was looking at one aspect of heartbreak.
Victimhood.
It’s easy to see ourselves as a victim.
Nobody would tell you this outright, but we love being victims of our circumstances and the actions of other people.
Why?
Because it allows us to avoid personal responsibility.
Being a victim means that we had no control…
