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Progressive Women Secretly Want to Date Conservative Men
Recently, my friend Melissa, was disappointed because a guy she met on Hinge didn’t offer to pay on their first date.
“It made me think he was cheap,” she complained, “and it was a bad first impression.”
Needless to say, they didn’t have a second date.
When she first told me the story, I thought he made her pay for him (which, I would agree, isn’t great.) But upon learning the details of the encounter, she had offered to pay for her own meal, and so they split the bill.
Melissa has a job. She makes her own money. And she frequently advocates for female empowerment and equality.
So why was she disappointed that her date didn’t meet the traditional expectation that the guy should pay?
Another friend of mine, let’s call her Hannah, speaks openly about being independent and capable of taking care of herself in the same breath as complaining about how her boyfriend didn’t offer to walk her home the other night.
Women today are more independent than ever, so why are these types of complaints so common?
