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No, Nice Guys Don’t “Finish Last”
A friend of mine recently came to me for girl advice.
He explained that he really liked this particular girl, but she hadn’t responded to his text messages in over a week. They had a good thing going and suddenly she seemed to be freezing him out for no good reason.
“I want her to know I’m here,” he had said, “but it really sucks. Being nice sucks. Nice guys finish last.”
I explained to him that the problem was not that he was being “too nice” but that this particular girl wasn’t treating him with respect.
“Niceness” and respect go hand in hand.
If you aren’t nice enough to people (AKA: a total jerk for no good reason), it will cost you respect. But if you’re too nice (AKA: a doormat) you will also lose respect.
In the dating realm, the number one quality a woman needs to display towards a man is respect.
I don’t care how much she claims to like him or be attracted to him. If she doesn’t respect him, it’s game over.
As I explained to my friend, in situations where a girl simply chooses not to respond or acknowledge text messages — she is demonstrating her lack of…
