Good article, I enjoyed hearing your perspective on this topic. I think it comes down to what you believe about human sexuality - is it individual, or is it meant to be shared with a partner? I personally see sexuality as an experience that is meant to be shared with an intimate partner whom you love and are committed to. Human sexuality is at it's best when it relates to connection, intimacy, and love.

My issue with porn is that it is a reduction of sex into something far less than it was created to be. It is often focused on the degredation of people (especially women), selfish sexual experiences, and a separation between sex and intimacy. (I wrote an article about how porn harms romantic relationships and would be happy to share if you are curious. But I don't like advertising my own work in someone else's comment's section so I won't post it here unless asked.)

Anyway, if you believe sex is an intimate experience between partners, then yes, porn is cheating. If your sexuality is meant to be something that is shared with the one you love, but you are willfully experiencing it on your own through porn, that is a betrayal of your partner.

Happy to continue the conversation!