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Love. One of the most overused words in the English language. Everyone wants it, but it can be so hard to find.
Even for the best of us, love is often confused with so many other things. Emotions. Brain chemicals. Good intentions but misguided choices.
The unfortunate truth is that far too often, we mistake love for anything but. Here are a few of the most common scenarios:
Co-dependency
Two people who are dependent on each other. Like, one person is emotionally unstable because of a previous breakup. The other has daddy issues.
Perfect fit.
If both you and your partner need each other for basic day-to-day functions, you might be co-dependent. You should never feel like the only reason you are in a relationship is that you can’t survive without one.
Too many people are in situations like this and aren’t even fully aware of it. A co-dependent relationship can feel like love, when really it’s just two people being too emotionally reliant on each other to leave.
Validation
Insecurity will make you do all kinds of things.
An insecure person thrives on validation from someone else — even more so if it’s from a member of the opposite sex.
