3 Pieces of Dating Advice To Leave In Your College Dorm

It’s time to grow up, people.

Ariana E.

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There is tons of bad dating advice out there.

I mean the kind of advice that sounds great when you’re nineteen, but never actually leads to meaningful relationships.

The problem is this — grown adults are still espousing this advice like it’s relevant.

And we wonder why dating is such a nightmare.

Are we ever too old to play games?

Here are three pieces of dating advice you should leave in your college dorm.

1. “The one who cares less has all the leverage.”

What we THINK it means

As long as you aren’t as emotionally invested as they are, you can’t get hurt.

Keep them at arm’s length. Give them just enough so that they feel close to you, but not enough that they can hurt you.

What it ACTUALLY means

Treat your date like they might be your enemy.

You aren’t working together as a team. You aren’t building trust or intimacy. You are keeping your guard up and getting ready to defend yourself.

Your date might be someone you have to protect yourself against.

2. “Have a dating roster.”

What we THINK it means

Never invest in just one person at a time.

Have a dating roster. To avoid getting attached to just one person, make sure you’re dividing your time between several potentials.

Have options so if one of them doesn’t work out, you’ll always have others to fall back on.

What it ACTUALLY means

Spread yourself thin to avoid feeling anything deeper than what you’re comfortable with.

Keep yourself distracted with different potentials so that none of them grow to matter enough that you have something to lose.

“Play hard to get.”

What we THINK it means

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Ariana E.

I said what I said. Counter-cultural opinions on sex, love, and dating.