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3 Harsh Truths About Overinvesting In Relationships
We tend to assume that the more we do for someone else, the more they will appreciate us.
This unfortunately is not the case.
The crazy part is that it actually makes us want them more. We try harder. We do more. We put in extra effort to get them to feel differently about us.
And in turn, all it does is make us more attached to them. (Regardless of whether or not they care at all.)
This is what we call the toxic cycle of overinvestment.
Physiologically, here’s how it works.
Nobody wants to admit that they’ve made a poor investment.
So rather than cutting our losses, we often double down. The months or years of trying so hard for something propels us to try even harder. We don’t want to give up and admit we wasted our time.
Instead, we continue to waste more time.
It’s a vicious cycle. We tell ourselves that if we hold on for just a little longer, try just a little harder, and invest just a little bit more, it will all be worth it.
